It Took Me 10 Years

After nearly 1o years I finally took the plunge and walked into a Jui Jitsu gym and have been training now for over a year.  The only regret I have is not starting Jui Jitsu sooner in my life.

Simply put,  Jui Jitsu is a form of self-defense where you assume the “bad guy” is bigger, faster and stronger than yourself.  With this in mind the goal is to get the “bad guy” to drain his energy before your energy gets drained.  Another goal is to defend, escape, control and submit.  Some ways of submission are joint locks, chokes and much more.

One of the major lessons I’ve learned training Jui Jitsu is how effective these moves are against all types and sizes of people.  I’ve also learned how much I don’t know about Jui Jitsu and how advanced it is.

The first time I walked into the Gracie Jui Jitsu class I was nervous.  Looking at all the other white belts made it a bit intimidating especially the ones that had one, two, three or four stripes!  During the introductory exercise that all first timers go through I was amazed at how effective it was to roll somebody off you that had you mounted with their hands around your neck trying to choke the shit out of you.  I was hooked.

When I first started I was so focused on getting the “next stripe” and how fast I could jump to the next belt level.  But, the more I go and the more I learn the less I focus the next belt or stripe.  I try to focus more on learning and mastering the fundamentals.  The belt will come with time.  As long as I put in the work I will see progress regardless of belt color.

The energy level during training is fun, relaxed and engaging.  After a year of training I can honestly say I carry myself with a sense of confidence I lacked before.  I would highly  recommend finding a Gracie Jui Jitsu gym near your area and taking the 1o day free trial to see for yourself.  If you’re on the fence about trying Jui Jitsu I encourage you to tell that voice in your head to shut up and just do it!!!



Become bigger than your problems


Mason’s bath time is one of his favorite times of the day.  99.9% of the time that my wife or I say “want a bath?” the boy without hesitation runs to the bathroom and starts climbing the tub.  For the first time ever we had a not so fun bath time.  For whatever reason Mason was not having it and anything I did made him more upset.  After being splashed about a million times (floor soaking wet) needless to say the bath was quick.  It’s amazing how easily you can let little things get under your skin.

Just like adults kids don’t always have their best days… we are all human.  Just remember that if you focuse on the little problems how can you be present in the moment and keep your attention on bigger and more important things? Are you focusing on the negative? Life has too much to offer to dwell on the small stuff. Become bigger than your problems.


Kids are sponges. Be a role model for them at an early age. Create good habits.

It all started the day after we left the doctor’s office. I was holding my son while we were walking out the door toward the truck.  Half way to the truck I noticed Mason make a huge loogie noise and then spit.  In disbelief I thought in my head where in the heck did this kid learn this… aha a moment of clarity.  I had just performed the same action seconds before without even noticing! I was amazed at how perfect the copycat move was.  From that day forward I was mindful of tiny things I would do around him and noticed he copied a lot more than I knew.

As an adult, we all have bad and good habits. One of the things I want my son to learn is good habits.  One variable to learning good habits at a youthful age is watching our parents self-perform good and unhealthy habits. Whether it’s drinking, smoking, working out, eating, etc. (you get the point).

I am constantly trying to perfect my habits, throw out the harmful habits and create new, fresh habits that bring me closer to my goals. Why not give our kids a powerful head start?  Believe it or not Mason already helps put dishes away, water bottles in the fridge, cleans the floor, and occasionally grabs daddy a beer (bad habit).  Ask his mother! It’s all true!  One of my major goals is when he gets older to get him to work out with me so we build a foundation of a healthy lifestyle.  I also incorporate habit forming into fun times so that I’m killing two birds with one stone. For example, we’ll stack water bottles in a row (he loves stacking objects) and then put them into the fridge.

We are all working on ways to become a better version of ourselves, through good habits we can achieve our goals. Why not incorporate your child? Learn from them and see what they are doing, odds are they are paying attention to more than you know.